How to Cope With the Haunting Thoughts After an Affair
Friday, September 2nd, 2011If your man cheated on you, one of the hardest thing to address is the stream of haunting images that flood your mind. Regardless of what you do you just cannot concentrate on anything different throughout the day besides your man and the other woman. It will drive you mad and make you almost unable to function through the day at work or with errands. I know the pain myself. There were numerous times when I just had to duck out of the office and go weep in the bathroom for one or two minutes and pull myself together again. What could you do to handle these haunting pictures of your partner’s affair?
Here is a easy love help tip you can do pretty much wherever and whenever you’re feeling those thoughts and horrible feelings creeping up. This is known as the Emotional Freedom System and when you learn it, it only takes about a couple of minutes to do. All that you need to do is find a quiet and private place to do that (it does look a bit strange, so other people might be confused to see you doing it).
First, feel the upsetting feelings that you wish to lose. Then all you need to do is tap with your fingers a collection of particular pressure points on your face and chest. Then do what’s called the 9 gamut process. This is a simple process that involves eye rotations, counting, and humming. Okay, so if you’ve gotten this far, you’re probably thinking that I must be crazy for advising this. I understand, but allow me to explain precisely how all this works.
The Emotional Freedom Technique is based on Traditional Chinese Medicine which asserts that there are numerous energy meridians and chakras all though your body through which energy and emotions flow. The practice of acupuncture is a method to stimulate these energy flows, but Emotional Freedom Technique is an alternative way. Basically it is not possible to know precisely which energy meridian is accountable for all the stored up feelings without having a comprehensive background in TCM. That’s okay though. What you are doing by tapping all of the particular points on your face and chest is doing a full system reset. You are pushing all the negative energy through your energy meridians and allowing it to flow properly.
Then the 9 gamut is a kind of way to scramble to hold that the emotion has on you. By rolling your eyes, humming a song, and counting, you are putting a wide array of sensory input into your system, which helps to undo the hold that all those images have on you. Therefore even though it may sound a bit strange, go ahead and try using the Emotional Freedom Technique to get rid of those unhealthy and haunting thoughts and feelings that have a tendency to swarm your mind when you learn that your spouse or lover had an affair.
If you’d like to learn more about infidelity and affairs, please check out the articles: Is Husband Having an Affair and Catch a Cheater to discover more.